[Talk] What would you do?

[army (滿手王 就攤牌阿!)]

        Here is the story. Today was a friend’s birthday.

I had to work all day and so I could only give him his present

in the evening.


        When I got out of work by 6, I hopped onto my bike and

raced from the far-end of campus to the front to pick-up my

custom-made birthday present. Last night I came up with a lame

excuse to make sure he was available, and so we agreed to meet

at 6:30. I know the time might not be very convenient and so I

confirmed the appointment again at 3 in the afternoon, but still,

he showed no sign of being occupied. And therefore, although

6:30 was a bit inconvenient for me, I rode at top speed in worry

that I would delay his evening plans. I weaved my way through

all the students that just got out of class, pedaling furiously

while at the same time slamming the brakes to avoid collision.

And for the first time in my studies in NTU, I even had my first

bicycle accident—I ran into two women on a bike. If you ask me,

it was definitely their fault. They were riding on their left

side of the road, and when they panicked they all of a sudden

decided that they wanted to abide by COMMON SENSE and turn to

the right, unfortunately it was too late and we still bumped

into each other. Nothing serious, luckily. I apologized, while

they made cold remarks. But I was in too much of a hurry to

care. I jumped back onto my bike and sped to his research

lab-- and even got there five minutes early! Yay! But when I

called to ask where he was, he said he was having dinner with

friends and asked if I wanted to join them….


        “It’s his birthday, it’s his birthday,” I kept

telling myself as I politely turned down his offer (which

was probably out of “politeness,” also). After all, I had

a free Christmas dinner waiting for me anyways. It also

started at 6:30, but if I hurry, I shouldn’t be too late,

right? Wrong!! When I got there, the food was nearly all

gone. All that was left was fried rice. (I hate fried rice….)

After I stuffed down the fried rice, took part in some of

the games, it was 8 when I called again and asked when he

would be free. (My original plan was to leave right after

dinner.) He answered “soon” and said, “I’ll call you

back later.” It was 9 when I finally couldn’t stand

wasting any more of my time and decided to just throw the

gift on his table and went home.


        I was furious! What the f**k have I been trying

so hard for? I got in an accident, worked up a sweat, missed

my free dinner, wasted my time, and for what? He doesn’t

even care! I feel completely disrespected! Am I overreacting?

How would you feel if you were stood up by a “friend?”

I can tolerate people being late, or even oversleeping

(which in his case is not very uncommon), but being

deliberately ignored is another story! It just goes to show

his lack of respect for my time and of me as a friend.

And to tell the truth, it isn’t the first time I’ve felt

this way around him. I’m a nice guy, I really am, but

that doesn’t mean that I enjoy being walked-over.


        When I got home, the first thing I did was delete

him from my msn contacts list. It’s not that I don’t

have people I despise on my contacts list, (they even have

their own group-name!) but they were there to begin with.

And at this moment, I just don’t want to see his name.

Maybe sooner or later, I’ll be able to add him back to

my contacts and place him in that group, but by then he

wouldn’t be my friend…. Ironic, that the customized

birthday gift turned out to be the monument of the end

of our friendship.

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※ 編輯: army            來自: 123.194.144.83       (12/26 23:26)
→ army:did i mention he didn't even call to cancel or postpone?
→ Bigfatty73:sounds like something I'd do over and over again
推 fizeau:bigfat you do what? you stand people up or you delete
→ fizeau:to army: how did you come up a lame excuse to make sure
→ fizeau:he was available?  what excuse?
推 fizeau:by the way it's uncommon (or it isn't?) that a man
→ fizeau:gives a man a present.....
→ fizeau:it seems not so manly
推 Bigfatty73:(stick my face into stinkin' cold butts)
→ Bigfatty73:pays off in the long run tho
推 fizeau:yeah...maybe i'll first tell him i'm not gay
→ fizeau:if i receive one
推 fizeau:but i really think army's friend was wrong to stand him
推 Soulchild:Well fiz, I don't think that giving birthday present
→ Soulchild:to a friend is a "gay" thing
推 wnwangster:sorry i laughed at the comments
推 wnwangster:and i like how you have a group for ppl you hate XD