[閒聊] 《NEWSWEEK》刊出Wade的投稿

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原文連結：http://bit.ly/keUVQD


標題：My Life as an NBA Superstar Single Dad

Recently awarded full custody of my kids, I now know what winning really means.

by Dwyane Wade
June 05, 2011


There are a few words that come to mind when I think about the past couple
years of my life: challenging, rewarding, transformative—they roll off the
tip of my tongue in an instant. In the span of a year my two good friends
LeBron James and Chris Bosh joined me on the Miami Heat, I struggled through
a painful, public divorce, and I became the full-time parent to my two young
sons, Zaire and Zion.

I’ve had some ups and downs lately, but the memories of the unpleasant times
disappear quickly, in part because of moments like the one recently when I
was able to surprise my younger son, Zion, at his school with cupcakes for
his fourth birthday. It was the day after we’d won the Eastern Conference
finals, but that victory couldn’t compare with the huge smile on Zion’s
face at that moment. I will never forget it. Bad memories vanish each morning
when I walk into both of my sons’ bedrooms to wake them up for school—their
mlaughter gives me all I need to face whatever is happening in my life. Not
too long ago, due to custody issues, I wasn’t allowed to see my sons for
long periods of time, or was given the chance to see them for only a few
hours with no idea of if or when I’d see them again. I can’t describe how
trying those days were, fighting for full custody while also working as a
professional basketball player nine months of the year. I just knew I wanted
to be with my kids.

I was seriously motivated to be a full-time parent for my sons. My mother and
father weren’t together when I was a kid growing up in Chicago, and early on
my mother fell victim to drug abuse. At 9 years old, I moved in with my
father because my mother could no longer care for me. Looking back, I now see
so many similarities between my own childhood and that of my sons. My father
stepped in when I needed him, and that gave me the chance for a better life.
That’s what I’m doing for my boys now.

All children need their fathers, but boys especially need fathers to teach
them how to be men. I remember wanting that so badly before I went to live
with my dad. I wanted someone to teach me how to tie a tie and walk the walk,
things only a man can teach a boy. Of course, back then, I never could have
imagined being in the same situation someday with my own kids. My dad and I
bumped heads a lot—we were so alike, both of us born competitors. My older
son, Zaire, is exactly the same way. We’ll battle on the court when I’m 39
and he’s 19. He’s 9 now, and he’s grown up with basketball. Zion could
take it or leave it, which is cool by me.

Today, I constantly tell my dad how much I appreciate what he did for me. I
think you really have to become a parent to understand what you will endure
to be there for your kids. I could say I was surprised at the criticism I
received for traveling from Miami to Chicago so often during the regular
season for my custody court cases, but nothing really surprises me anymore. I
had a duty to fight to be with my kids, and I did it.

Thankfully, I’ve gotten a lot of support from my mother, sister, and others
in taking care of my boys and making their new living arrangements a smooth
and happy transition. Going forward, I want my sons to have a healthy
relationship with their mother, and that’s something we’re working on. I
hope to have a great relationship with her one day too, because I know how
much it meant to me to see my parents get along as time went on.

I can’t say what we’ll do for Father’s Day, because since my sons came to
live with me about two months ago, every day has been like Father’s Day. I
just want people—men, and men of color in particular—to hear my story and
know that their children need them and that it’s their responsibility to be
there for them. We have to step up as men and do our part. There are no
excuses.



Wade is a guard for the Miami Heat and was recently appointed by President
Obama to a new parenting program geared toward encouraging fathers to become
more involved in their children’s lives.


《NEWSWEEK》就是《讀者文摘》或叫美國《新聞周刊》

Wade自述就在LCD合體不久後，他不但要面對漫長的賽季，同時還得辛苦為兩個孩子的
監護權跟前妻打官司，直到兩個月前，他打贏官司並開始成為兩個孩子的單身父親。

當Wade 9歲的時候，也是父母離婚，所以他更懂當時他爸的心情，以及照顧孩子需要教
他們些什麼。成為一個真正的男人必須學會打理穿著、說到就要做到(內文無誤)。

...這麼晚了有人會看嗎  :P

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