→ leefengyuh:THX MAN,I EMENDED MY POST 218.168.93.237 10/27 19:17
※ 引述《leefengyuh (不乖的孩子 光榮的困境)》之銘言：
: 隨便舉個例來說(若有冒犯當事人請來信告知 我自D 不要上法院告我)
: 蔣x柏 vs 連x文
: 一樣是家世顯赫公子哥
: 外表不同 受到的注意就是不一樣 時尚雜誌訪問蔣的頻率大於連太多了
I think you ignored their jobs.
Lam works for some investment bankings like Morgan Stanley,
and he is the chief for Taipei MRT.
Chiang works as a fashion designer
That's an important fact why Chiang gets more opportunities to be
reported by fashion related magazines
: 假設他們都投胎在普通人家 少了由家世所建構出的"學歷+金錢"的光環
: 蔣只會是窮了點 英文爛了點 學歷差了點 一樣不愁沒正妹
: 還是可以有不錯的"受重視待遇"
: 還是有機會娶到醫院院長的美女女兒＋偶像劇演員老婆（當然少了家世 機率會降低一些）
: 連呢?
: MY主觀ANSWER:除非有奇蹟
: 不然很大機會是個整天在電腦前抓A片打手槍的普通阿宅
: 娶到蔡X珊的機會 不好意思 不是跟蔣一樣的降低而已 而必是= 0/100
: 和現在在社會受到的重視程度 天差地遠
I admire your answer, but the real world is not that simple.
I mean, most people have their strength and weekness,
so you must judge it, and everyone has his or her own focus.
Thus, the answer does not alway go as you expect.
: 因為"人不膚淺枉為人" 在怎麼後天教育 也不可能完全消除這個"天性"AND"獸性"
: 我也是極膚淺的一員 即使我受了很高的教育 且對自己的人生滿懷夢想且一步步在
: 實現
: 我只是二級的路人臉 雖不是太帥 但自知即使滿臉鬍渣的宅樣也不特別難看
: 加上沒有身高體重的困擾(177CM 70KG)
: 有時神韻蠻像某個偶像 在某些人眼中會意外上升到上述"漂亮臉=受重視"境界而
: 受到因外表吃香的待遇 但每次遇到這些情況 心中沒有太大喜悅
I think you're just too greedy
However, it is a good way for you to retrospect yourself.
: 反而知道"帥到掉渣"的帥哥 和 自己 根本就活在二個世界
: 加上小弟有幾個"帥到掉渣"朋友 每次和他們在一起 就感受的到女孩子對他們的態度比
: 對我熱情 心裡難免不是滋味(沒辦法 這是我的劣根性)
: 即使當時有穩定交往的女友 還是在乎別的女孩對自己的態度
I would say that you're so childish to behave like this.
You don't have to care about this because there are always monsters,
in my definition, those who are super handsome and still got lots of
advantages, in this world.
Just be yourself, you'll be happier.
: 我每次轉開電視看到他時
: 就在思考：小弟雖非特別優秀之人 但一些表現也不比他差 但我沒這個機會 而他有
: WHY? 不難理解：因為"帥FACE VS 路人FACE"的差別
You might find lots of handsome Caucasian homeless in LA,
they are handsome, taller than many rich Asian immigrants, and they belong
to the most advantagous race.
However, they are still no more than just homeless!
: 學生時代每個與書共渡的煩悶夜+出社會後的努力工作+疲勞轟炸累積而來的英語聽力
: 可以保有部分價值 不致於悲哀的走上"完全枉費"一途
: 交往多年女友 幾年前 沒有太多猶豫就當我的面前活生生上了別人的車 轉身投向別人懷抱
: 不論我如何說破嘴 哀求他 用盡一切力量對她再好 都沒有用
: 讓我學到了"當自己不夠好時 是留不住人的"
: 尤其是在"樣樣比條件"這個如此現實+殘忍的情場
That's your own experience.
I've post an article before which talks about selecting your best companion.
To select your mate is just as a multi-attribution formula.
You could refer to it.
I lost to several boys who are not as tall, handsome or smart as me
when I was in NTU.
They came from normal schools while I'm in the top 1 of Taiwan,
and my family is even richer, but I still can't make it.
I would say that I appreciate your experience, but that is not necessarily
true in the real world.
Besides that, are you sure that there's no other reason or other
disadvantage of you that drives your ex-girlfriend out?
: 和情敵比輸了就是只能摸摸鼻子GET OUT說再見 沒有第二句話好囉嗦
: 不再傻傻的以為"對她好 她就會一直在身邊" 那是因為她還沒遇到以她的條件找到更好的
Actaully, there are at least 5 girls around me do not select the best
pursuer among their choices.
That's why I cannot admit your conclusion.
: 打死都要具備外表(真的不夠好就來假的 但醫生不是神 所以只能加分 不可能有奇蹟
: 不用穿名牌 但起碼一定做到乾淨整齊不臭不油)
: 那時更用功念書 所以後來有不錯的學歷
: 現在每天更努力工作賺錢
: 更努力把網球打好 中間也學了德語 西語 樂理
: 之前有空就到很多國家旅行 擴展視野
: 也曾待過英語系國家工作 練就了好的英語聽力
: 只要能讓自己的價值提升 一個小機會我都不放過
I appreciate for your ambition.
: 推 diaze:這篇很真實 122.123.195.68 10/22 18:43
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I don't think so.
There are too many examples I've seen stand againt his conclusion.
There is something wrong with my computer, so I can reply only in English,
and I apologize for that.
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