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"The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women
 And What To Do About It...?"

Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women and
How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes...

◎ MISTAKE I: Being Too Much Of A Nice Guy?

 Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem
 to be attracted "nice" guys?
 Of course you have.
 Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that
 always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never
 romantically interested in YOU.

 What's going on here?
 It's actually very simple...
 Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is.
 They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful
 GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
 And guess what?
 Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
 And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
 I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense,
 and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.

 Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it,
 you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

◎ MISTAKE II: Trying To "convince" Her To Like You

 What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like...
 but she's just not interested?
 Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.
 Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS"
 WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
 Never, ever, EVER.
 You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic
 and reasoning".

 Think about it.
 If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to
 change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?
 But we all do it.
 When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best
 to change her mind.
 Bad idea. One that will never work.

◎ MISTAKE III: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

 In our desire to please women
 (which we mistakenly think will make them like us),
 us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

 Another HORRIBLE idea.

 Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
 Don't get me wrong here.
 You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
 But if you think that treating a woman well means
 "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.

 You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED
 at men who seek their approval.
 Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around
 and want her approval annoy her...

◎ MISTAKE IV: Trying To get Her Affection With Food And Gifts

 How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner,
 bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone
 who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
 If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.

 Well guess what?

 It's only NATURAL when this happens...
 That's right, I said NATURAL.
 When you do these things, you send a clear message:
 "I don't think you'll like me for who I am,
  so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".
 Your good intentions usually come across to women as
 over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation.

 That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

◎MISTAKE V: Sharing how You Feel?Too Early In The Relationship With Her

  Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women
  is sharing how they "feel" too early on.
  Attractive women are rare. And they get a LOT of attention from men.

  Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached
  in one way or another ALL THE TIME by men.
  An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who
  are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week,
  and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

  And guess what?

  Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
  That's right. They have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect.
  And one thing that turns an attractive women off
  and sends her running away faster than just about anything is
  a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you"
  after one or two dates.

  This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys
  who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.
  Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
  There's a much better way...

                                                   Written by David DeAngelo

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時間: Sat Feb  7 10:28:18 2004


◎ MISTAKE VI: Not getting How Attraction Works For Women

  Women are VERY different from men when it comes
  to ATTRACTION.

  You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

  When a man sees a beautiful young woman, he
  INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

  But does the same apply for women?

  Do women feel sexual attraction to men based
  mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

  Well, after studying this topic for over five
  full years now, I can tell you that women usually
  have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by
  things OTHER than looks.

  Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more
  average and unattractive men with beautiful women
  than the other way around?

  Think about it.

  Women are more attracted to certain qualities
  in men... and they're attracted to the way a man
  makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

  If you know how to use your body language and
  communication correctly, you can make women feel
  the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you
  that YOU feel when you see a gorgeous young woman.

  But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how
  to do this.

  And ANY guy can learn how...


◎MISTAKE VII: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

  One of the most common mistakes that guys make
  is giving up before they've even gotten started...
  because they think that attractive women are only
  interested in men who have looks and money... or
  guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a
  certain age.

  And sure, there are some women who are only
  interested in these things.

  But MOST women are far more interested in a
  man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

  There are personality traits that draw women to
  you like a magnet...

  And if you learn what they are and how to use
  them, YOU can be one of these guys.

  YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just
  because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

  Let me say this again: If you know how to use
  your body language and communication correctly,
  you can make women feel the same kind of powerful
  sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you
  see a hot, sexy young woman.


◎MISTAKE VIII: Giving All Of Your Power To Women

  Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look
  to a woman for approval or permission.

  Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys
  use is GIVING THEIR POWER to women.

  Said differently, guys try to get women to like
  them by doing whatever the woman wants.

  Another bad idea...

  Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can
  walk all over... Women aren't attracted to
  Wussies!


◎MISTAKE 9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of
               Situation With Women


  Now I'm going to blow your mind...

  A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

  Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than
  men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

  I know, it might be hard to believe. But for
  example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and
  you want to kiss her, she knows it.

  And if you don't know exactly what to do and
  exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there
  looking at her and getting nervous, she won't
  help!

  And this goes for ALL aspects of women and
  dating...

  Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking
  her out, kissing her, getting physical...
  everything.

  If you don't know what to do in each situation,
  you will probably screw it up... and LOSE
  EVERYTHING.

  And you KNOW it.

  It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY
  how to go from one step to the next with a woman...
  from the first meeting, all the way to the
  bedroom.


◎MISTAKE 10: Not Getting HELP

  This is the biggest mistake of all.

  This is the mistake that keeps most men from
  EVER having the kind of success with women that
  they truly want.

  I know, guys don't like to make themselves look
  weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

  Hey, I've been there myself.

  Let me tell you a little about me and how I
  figured out how to be successful with women...

  About five years ago I became fed up with the
  fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and
  get dates with women that I was attracted to.

  It frustrated the hell out of me.


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