Re: [閒聊] 我又不是義和團之奇怪反應／不禮貌問題篇

[mickey22 (totoro)]

※ 引述《lilipure (lilipure)》之銘言：
: ※ 引述《babbitt1007 (振作新生活運動)》之銘言：
: : 我想這個經驗大家多少都有，
: : 跟月經文有點類似。
: : 當你的親朋好友，或是不太熟的朋友，知道各位的伴侶是外籍人士，
: : 你聽過對方問過／說過最讓你印象深刻，或者很不舒服的反應。
: : 大家來推文吧～
: : 好久沒有炒版上的氣氛了。
: : 我真是罪過...
: : 我的經驗就很典型的月經文問題：
: : 「外國人都很體貼？」
: : 「你要小心一點」
: 我的幾個手帕交聽到我跟小詹在一起之後反應兩極化
: ＊最讓我不舒服的是＊
: "土耳其喔?! 他們國家不是很落後嗎?!"
: (O.S. 妳是住在多先進的國家?!)

Haha~ When I was in turkey, whenever I call home, this is exactly the same

question my parent ask. in additional, "it's chaos out there, lot's of wars"

I actually do'nt know how to explain everything to them but reply

"not like that, I am very safe!"

But they are my parents, I can understand.

: "土耳其人是中東人對吧?! 中東人好像都蠻沒水準的耶!!"
: (O.S.明明就是西亞!!!)
: "外國人都只是玩玩而已,妳別再被騙了"
: (O.S. 妳乾脆說外國人都是外星人好了!!)

sort of, when some of my friends know that my bf is a turkish,

"oh, turkish, he must be handsome!" or "oh, turkish, they are notorious!"

Basically, I take those as positive concern.

: "原來妳一直練習英文就是要釣個外國人"
: (O.S. 這世界上學英文的人目的都在互相釣來釣去嗎?!)

: ＊最讓我印象深刻的是＊
: "聽說他們翻滾的技巧跟姿態都很多很不錯?!"
: (O.S.  >\\\\\\\\\< )
: "他長這麼高,size 一定很大吧?!"
: (O.S. 這是不能說的秘密!! XD )

yeah...this one is also impressive to me.

I doubt thatg they dare to ask...however, they did!

: "聽說他們很大男人?!"
: (O.S. 不全都是這樣吧?!)

My experience: chauvinism! my friend said that with definate tone,

which means telling me to watch out!

Or "oh-o, turkish? people in middle-east beat wife...."

: "以後我們去土耳其旅遊就全靠妳啦!!"
: (O.S. 帶妳們去地中海游泳?! XD )
: (啊~~最後一天上班.....大家士氣低落......)

the rest of event such as "muslim cant eat pork ne"

"oh-o, if you marry with him, you will be a muslim and change name."



Frankly, I feel that I' m lucky and not suffer much from this kind of abuse.

My best friends support me and respect my decesion.

The only concern is my parents by far.

Once i really felt hurt is from my neighbor. When she knows that he is a muslim,

she told me that lots of terrorists are muslim with a face.

Moreover, when she knows that we are in a long distance relationship,

she shaked her head and told me to give up asap.

Since then, she is on my black list.

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我要勇敢!

但坦然的確令人心傷!

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推 babbitt1007:推簽名檔，唯二兩句中文XDDD我來亂的
→ mickey22:haha, doent matter, welcome!
※ 編輯: mickey22        來自: 24.176.104.250       (11/07 11:59)
推 lilipure:我覺得我很幸運,我遇到的土耳其男是小詹,他百無禁忌,從不
→ lilipure:用他的想法加諸在我身上,對我只有尊重,體諒和包容.
→ mickey22:I think those three you said are basic in a relation~
推 lilipure:這三點真的是很基本,但是,要完全做到好像真的不容易?!