推 Lerche:覺得你很棒，可以這麼細膩的了解自己的狀態(抱) 07/14 09:53
I started to look for the information of how to deal with manipulator.
To my surprise, he fits the profile even more than I expected.
曾經我還猶豫於manipulative和其他個性上弱點的差異
不過經過clarify之後 幾乎已經是不爭的事實
自己還是對於這樣的人可以多麼讓目標凌駕於對人的真正感情感到震驚
一直相信對方善良誠摯的一面
所以仍舊有些不情願相信
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這陣子的狀況 讓人不得不試著尋找問題的根源
自從intake時 講述自己童年的經驗
社工雖然只是很簡單的回應
但我卻讀出她某個程度認為這或許算是abuse的訊息
加上朋友後來的回應
才漸漸明白或許自己從來都不曾正視
這數十年來都不想回憶不願提起的經歷
therefore,
I'm currently reading the survivor to thirver,
it's a 21 steps recovery manual for adult who has been abused in their childhood.
step 1: "I'm in a breakthrough crisis, having gained some sense of my abuse"
it's the first sign that their past has caught up with them.
As a child, you developed formidable psychological defenses to protect
yourself against this assault, and you probably continued to rely on these
rigid defenses well into adulthood, until they no longer worked for you. This is
where you may be now.
step 2
- ashamed, avoid unpleasant feelings
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. 昨晚的夢 .
女孩問媽媽說 她什麼時候才能把中間多的胸部切除掉
媽媽告訴她等妳再長大一點 看看中間的胸部會不會縮小
然後就可以把右邊的折過去
(做視覺示範)
女孩問媽媽那為什麼妳沒有切掉?
媽媽說因為男人喜歡胸部 所以越多越好
(展示她一大堆大大小小的胸部)
並且說 妳該先跟Nick(男友名)談談
讓他知道妳有三個胸部 說不定他很喜歡呢
(三個胸部的女性著低胸裝的胸部特寫)
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